To learn more about the Couples Activation Reduction Technique (CART), a super useful protocol that I created that significantly reduces triggers and uses your partner as a resource in helping this happen, click CART. To learn more about the Personal Activation Reduction Technique (PART), a modification of a technique that used for anxiety and PTSD, click PART.
Upgrade Your Connection With Your Partner: In times of social isolation and living at home with our partners 24/7, it is essential to up our connection game. We are going to rub each others raw spots more that we are around eachother more. In order to feel good about our partner, we need to upgrade our connections now more than ever!.
Upgrade Your Connection With Your Partner: In times of social isolation and living at home with our partners 24/7, it is essential to up our connection game. We are going to rub each others raw spots more that we are around eachother more. In order to feel good about our partner, we need to upgrade our connections now more than ever!.
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SPECIALIZING IN COUPLES COUNSELING: It really hurts when the person you love is focused on "being right", rather than really getting you! Does your relationship create a deep pain or numbness in your heart? When we start to believe that our LEGITIMATE needs for connection will not be adequately met with our partner, it is easy to focus on our personal needs (at the expense of our partner's).
Why is Pre-Marital Counseling The Best Investment In Your Life: Premarital counseling with a good therapist is one of the best investments you could make in your life. The patterns that we "naturally" fall into in relationships either set us up for secure attachment, great physical and emotional connections, and a lot of joy OR they set us up for disconnection, inadequate intimacy, and a lack of connection.
You are here: Home Couples Counseling Pre-Marital What To Expect With Pre-Marital Counseling. It will also help us identify areas of differences that are likely to lead to challenges in the future. Being aware of these differences, creating a shared strategy for addressing them and an ability to talk about them and address them together, as a team is essential!
Emotions Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a form of couples therapy that has been created by Sue Johnson. It has a 75% rate of being effective with couples who are not in a domestic violence situation and where both members of the couple want the relationship to work. I practice a modified form of Couples Counseling that is largely influenced by EFT.
We are called to love each other and to cling to each other, but what exactly does that mean when it comes to emotional and spiritual connection with your partner? Todd Harvey, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist is the founder of Bay Area Couples Counseling and a co-founder of Couples-Boot-Camp.
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Inna W.
Oct 03, 2021
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I wanted to say how grateful I am to Todd for helping me feel better. I reached out to him to help me with PTSD that I developed after a car accident and other big stressful events in my life. When I realized that I was stuck in a fight or flight mode and my nervous system was not letting it go. I am happy I did reach out. He helped me a lot with his knowledge, professionalism, kindness, and sense of humor, made me realize that nervous system can be archaic in the way it functions and seeing "danger" when it's no longer there, and helping me with EMDR to unplug it. He also helped
Naz K.
Mar 30, 2019
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I recommend Todd to specially those who never had a therapist or who have skeptical partners about the whole process. His free spirit and calming attitude works really great for me and my partner.
The exercises and techniques he teaches us really works out for us and I cannot emphasize enough on how much comfortable he makes us feel while being very professional.
I'm very glad we chose to work with him.
The exercises and techniques he teaches us really works out for us and I cannot emphasize enough on how much comfortable he makes us feel while being very professional.
I'm very glad we chose to work with him.
Steve S.
Nov 03, 2018
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When my father passed away last year, I was going through severe grief and was diagnosed with Traumatic Grief, PTSD, and depersonalization. I was in a lot of emotional pain. I was seeing another therapist who recommended EMDR as a way to heal my condition. Todd was very careful in executing EMDR. He waited for the right moment when I was ready. Todd and EMDR helped me tremendously. Todd is very caring and he knows a lot of therapy techniques. I'm am grateful for having and choosing him as my therapist. If you are suffering mentally, Todd will be able to help you. Please check out his website
Christian B.
Feb 13, 2018
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I can't recommend Todd Harvey enough. He was our couples counseled during a year process. His approach for developing empathy and emotional communication enabled us with many more skills for self work, than previous counselors. We got to places of vulnerability and within a truly equal focus on both our experiences. I found his work to be pretty amazing. If ever I plan on working with a counselor again as a couple or individual I will contact him. Think 'horse whisperer' for humans.
Jeremi McManus
Sep 09, 2017
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As a fellow couples therapist and MFT, I've consulted with Todd Harvey for several years. Over this time, I've been consistently amazed by his ability to zero in on the issue facing a couple as well as the approach needed to tackle it. His warmth really shines through both with me, as well as with the individual clients and couples he works with. I have no hesitation sending clients and people I know his way, particularly if they are struggling with an issue as a couple, need individual counseling, or are looking to work on a trauma through EMDR.
Slava P.
May 12, 2015
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Therapy is a lot about finding the right match for you. I've been to a few other therapists where the sessions went nowhere or even left me feeling less resolved than when I came in. What Todd does really well is that he listens to you and is able to help you filter through things until you yourself can easily see steps you need to make and are ready for. Based on this, I'm pretty sure he'd a good match for the vast majority of people.
A not so secret technique of his is to repeat back key points of things that you've said that really encompass your problem. It's very
A not so secret technique of his is to repeat back key points of things that you've said that really encompass your problem. It's very
Ashley M.
Feb 02, 2015
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Todd Harvey brings attentive listening and constructive feedback to couples counseling. We had some very productive sessions with him and made more progress with him in a couple sessions than we did with a more expensive/PhD's therapist over several months. One particular technique that has had a lasting impact was really trying to empathize with the emotional content of my partner's communication as opposed to whatever the surface level content of message. I think Todd is very good at what he does and is reasonably priced.
Justin H.
May 19, 2014
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Todd offers a warm and supportive presence while also holding a powerful frame of transformative wisdom through his training and knowledge base. For Todd, empathy and authenticity are traits that come naturally and I recommend him to anyone looking for a therapist to support their process of deep and meaningful change by meeting them where they want to be met.
Leahnora R.
May 16, 2014
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My partner and I decided that we should give "couples counseling" a try before throwing in the towel on the relationship.
We found Todd on Yelp, and weren't sure what to expect. Todd ended up calling us both, at separate times, and talked to us each for an hour as an initial assessment.
The first appointment was nerve racking, but Todd makes you feel very comfortable and relaxed and doesn't show "favoritism".
We decided to do an intense month of therapy and saw him twice a week.
After the first session, my boyfriend and I were already in awe of what tools Todd
We found Todd on Yelp, and weren't sure what to expect. Todd ended up calling us both, at separate times, and talked to us each for an hour as an initial assessment.
The first appointment was nerve racking, but Todd makes you feel very comfortable and relaxed and doesn't show "favoritism".
We decided to do an intense month of therapy and saw him twice a week.
After the first session, my boyfriend and I were already in awe of what tools Todd
Tessa R.
Apr 18, 2014
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As a fellow therapist who knows Todd well and has observed his work, I highly recommend him if you are looking for a caring, thoughtful, and wise clinician. He specializes in working with couples and is also trained in EMDR, a therapy modality that helps relieve many types of psychological distress. I especially appreciate his compassion, authenticity, and his ability to create a sacred space of safety, where healing and transformation can unfold. I feel confident referring clients to Todd and highly recommend him.
Angie C.
Feb 24, 2014
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Over the last few years, many people told me to see a therapist - friends, family, and heck, even my landlady! Apparently everyone's been to therapy and highly recommends the experience. When I turned 30, I was ready to do this thing that everyone does called "have a therapist" (the way you have a dentist, or an opthamologist).
I did a search on Google for therapists in Oakland/Berkeley and read through many therapist's websites (and their Yelp reviews), and read Todd Harvey's webpage on individual psychotherapy (http://toddharveymft.com/individual-psychotherapy). Todd
I did a search on Google for therapists in Oakland/Berkeley and read through many therapist's websites (and their Yelp reviews), and read Todd Harvey's webpage on individual psychotherapy (http://toddharveymft.com/individual-psychotherapy). Todd
Mindie D.
Aug 08, 2013
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Todd is a talented therapist whom I would recommend seeing whenever you feel you've experienced an event which left you feeling easily agitated, angered, or depressed. From past physical and emotion injuries one can benefit from Todd's skill in giving EMDR sessions. I'm glad to have him in my circle of talented, kind-hearted healthcare practitioners.
Aimee P.
Aug 01, 2013
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As a colleague of Todd, I have experienced him to be a good listener, knowledgable, and engaged in the field of couples counseling as well as helping individuals going through life transitions. I had the opportunity to witness him demonstrate an EMDR trauma therapy session and was greatly impressed by the depth of his skill. I feel confident referring clients to him, and if you are looking for a competent and caring professional, I highly recommend working with Todd.
Elijah W.
Jun 19, 2013
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Todd is a fantastic therapist. He is caring, attentive, and understanding, and creates a very supportive environment to explore emotional and relationship problems and to mature emotionally and grow as a person. I found Todd to provide the right balance of support and tough love - he can help you to confront things you might otherwise try to ignore, but in a way that never feels uncaring. I liked that he was open to trying different things until finding a process that worked for both of us, and ultimately, the most important thing was that I felt that he really listens.
Richard B.
May 30, 2013
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I am so happy to have met Todd. He is a very compassionate, understanding and effective therapist. His unique form of therapy provides a nurturing and supportive environment for individuals and couples to explore relationship issues or heal from traumatic experiences. His way of interacting with his clients also challenges growth and understanding. He also offers a very effective form of therapy called EMDR which can help those who have PTSD or other traumas and phobias find peace of mind quickly and permanently. I am glad to find such a caring therapist to refer others to.
Marie B.
May 16, 2013
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As a healthcare provider, and someone who knows Todd well, I refer many patients to him for emotional support. Todd Harvey offers a unique experience for couples therapy that more effectively helps both parties feel heard and seen. This is especially important when one of the partners is less excited or open to being in therapy. His offering of EMDR work is also a great tool that Todd supports his patients with. It is a method for helping to reduce the emotional charge of anything ranging form PTSD, relationship wounds or addiction. Most importantly is the care that Todd provides to the couples
Maya D.
Mar 04, 2013
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Todd is a colleague, excellent therapist, and wonderful person. He treats his clients with the utmost respect, understanding, and care. I wholeheartedly recommend him to couples that are in need of someone to help them navigate the rough waters of their relationship. Also, I recommend Todd for individuals who are in need of a therapist to help them through the process of healing and growth. If you are in need of a excellent therapist who is intelligent, skillful, and compassionate, look no further.
Peter C.
Feb 20, 2013
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Todd is a thoughtful and compassionate listener with great a great ability to help you explore painful patterns in your relationships without judgement. His empathy for the struggle you find yourself in is contagious. He is skilled in helping you and your partner learn how to become aware of your respective needs and to communicate those needs in a respectful manner. If you love your partner but are caught in a painful pattern of fighting, then you will be in good hands with Todd.
