My specialties include helping people with depression and anxiety; grief and loss; childhood (or more recent) trauma such as emotional or physical abuse; relationship or family issues; "codependence"; and addictions-including problems with alcohol or drugs or sexual compulsivity.
I also specialize in working with men on male-related issues, such as sexuality or "mid-life crisis", as well as other miscellaneous challenges related to whatever is standing in the way of finding greater happiness and success.I work collaboratively, with the strong belief that everyone has his or her own distinctive voice and point of view that can become repressed or "pushed aside" due to trauma or other painful experiences.
I also specialize in working with men on male-related issues, such as sexuality or "mid-life crisis", as well as other miscellaneous challenges related to whatever is standing in the way of finding greater happiness and success.I work collaboratively, with the strong belief that everyone has his or her own distinctive voice and point of view that can become repressed or "pushed aside" due to trauma or other painful experiences.
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People often come to therapy as a last resort: they've tried everything they can think of, and nothing has worked. Often they are beating themselves up for not being able to solve their problems on their own, while feeling frustrated, sad, anxious, stuck, and so on. Most if not all of my clients tell me they feel safe with me, and sense that I care about them and want to help them get better.
First is a listing of recent featured pieces. Tom was a new patient I met several years ago, who like a handful of newish patients asked that I "hold his feet to the fire." I froze a moment, stumped as to why Tom wanted me to "interrogate" him about his use of pornography, and why he refused to give up an activity that infuriated his wife and led to self-loathing and shame.
Is there a person, place or thing in your life that causes enormous fear or anxiety? Sometimes we encounter situations or interactions that freeze us in our tracks. It could be a fear of flying, or driving on the freeway (more common than you think in Los Angeles!) It could be that a certain place (a parent's house, or boss's office) that creates an intense and confusing paralysis.
It's hard if not impossible to have perspective. We're too immersed in our lives to be objective. Plus many of our beliefs, feelings and motives are unconscious. Some secretly wonder if, for example, they really deserve love, or wrestle with very mixed feelings about it. Maybe we are looking for perfection, as a way of guarding against disappointment.
It gets even more complicated for men from dysfunctional families, with one parent who is absent or withdrawn and another who is well-meaning but overbearing or controlling. What does it mean to be authentically masculine these days? Many of the male clients I see these days are wondering how they can be "emotionally available" while still "manly, " sensitive yet self-sufficient, confident but not egotistical, and so on.
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